It's been over a month since I've written much. Not just a blog, but anything. The last blog was a bit hard and though well-received, it didn't make life easier. I have been busy and tired. I have had to renegotiate my schedule and stay true to my own boundaries. I have had to sacrifice … Continue reading Learning to Let People Down
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Finding Your Filters
It's rare that any of us have escaped growing up without picking up outside messages about ourselves. From infancy, the world around us and the people around us are speaking into what kind of person we are. Some folks are fortunate to hear outright messages of strength, courage, and beauty. They are given space to … Continue reading Finding Your Filters
Do You Know What You Need?
One summer I worked as a coach at a children's sports camp. It was a hilarious, hot, and wonderful experience. Amid games of soccer and capture the flag, kids aged 3-8 were bound to get bumps and bruises. It was a daily occurrence for a little one to come to me in tears. I would … Continue reading Do You Know What You Need?
Can We Move Forward By Looking Backward?
There are things we all would change if we knew then what we know now. Perhaps it is how you treated a kid in high school or the way you quit a job. Maybe it's how you spent your teens or 20s or some of the people you chose to date. However big or small, … Continue reading Can We Move Forward By Looking Backward?
The Counter-Intuitiveness of Choice
"She can't do that..." "He has to understand that..." "He can't say that..." "She has to change that..." We've all uttered these sentiments, or something in a similar vein, at one time or another. Perhaps we say them as a longing for connection, a desire to be understood, a hope for validation or a plea … Continue reading The Counter-Intuitiveness of Choice
Four Seeds Counseling 